Middle School

Kinds of Bullying

  • Verbal: Name-calling, put-downs, and unwelcome teasing.
  • Physical: Hitting, pushing, and destroying property.
  • Emotional: Gossiping, threatening, starting rumors.
  • Relational: Using friendships and relationships to exclude others and to hurt people to get what you want.
  • Cyberbullying: Using any form of technology (cell phones, Facebook, email, etc.) as a tool for bullying.

The Truth

  • Bullying hurts everybody: targets, peers and bystanders, and the bullies themselves.
  • It is hard to learn in a place where there is bullying. It is hard to feel happy or safe where there is bullying.
  • Bullying can hurt for years after it happens. Lots of people never forget that they were bullied and how badly it made them feel.

» If You Are Being Bullied...

  • Take a deep breath, look the bully in the eye and say, “I don’t like it when _____. Stop or I will tell _____.” Look confident, stand up straight and hold your head high. Practice this before you do it!
  • Find a friend to be with and who will stick up for you. Tell them you need their help.
  • Distract the bully by giving a compliment: “Thanks for caring about what I wear. I’ll try to remember your advice next time I go shopping.”
  • Distract the bully by asking a question: “You really want me to get lost? Where would you go if you were me?”
  • Avoid bullies when you can. Think “safety first.”
  • Go to an adult who will listen to you (it is NOT tattling when you are being hurt!).
  • If someone is physically threatening or hurting you, make a lot of noise, get away fast, and tell an adult.
  • If a weapon is involved, get away fast and tell an adult immediately.

Remember: We all deserve respect. Keep trying!

» If You Are A Bully...

  • Stop and think! Will what you say or do hurt someone or their feelings?
  • Try just walking away.
  • Find an adult who will listen. Talk to them and ask for help!

Remember: Treat others like you want to be treated.

» If You See Someone Being Bullied...

  • Take a deep breath, look the bully in the eye and say, “I don’t like it when you ____. Stop or I will tell ______.”
  • Invite the person who is being bullied to join you and your group.
  • Say something good to and about the person who is being bullied.
  • Make friends and stand by them.
  • Go to an adult who will listen to you. Reporting isn’t tattling; you’re keeping someone safe.
  • Don’t laugh at bullying behavior or give the bully any attention for his/her behavior.
  • Say something, do something, or tell someone.

Remember: Bystanders can dramatically change a bullying situation. Be someone’s hero!